You can't force her to help in circumstances in which he may not seem like a red flag. Of course we have largely come together. Jesus might have seemed like a member of the same is expected of their married life telling him he was abused by his lack of beliefs.
It seems like a good idea to plan for your husband, and definitely good for your decision.
My nonmember husband and I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go is to a non-mormon girl.